This is something that has been on my mind a lot lately. I’m sure that a lot of people, if not everyone, has thought about this at least once… Who or what determines what is ‘Normal’?
According to the English dictionary Normal could be:
- an Adjective: Conforming to a standard, usual, typical, expected… or
- a Noun: The usual, typical, or expected state or condition.
By who exactly is this expected? Who decides what a “usual or typical” condition is? Who makes these conclusions and who agrees on them? If ‘Normal’ was the equivalent of oblivious would it then mean that you are ‘abnormal’ if you were a sentient human being?
We all have different personalities and characteristics that make us so beautiful and unique, but sometimes it seems as though the fear of being seen as ‘abnormal’ takes away that joy of being true to ourselves.
My personal opinion of this is that we all have our own perspective of what ‘normal’ is, therefore what is normal for you won’t necessarily be normal for everyone else, maybe it won’t even be normal for anyone but you. Does that make you abnormal? Of course not, it makes you … you. It makes you unique from everyone else.
On these advice columns on social media sites and magazines you always read questions from individuals who want to know if something is “normal” and I always think to myself “who are you trying to impress and why?”
Recently I actually discovered a website called ‘Is it normal’ (the name explains exactly what it’s about) and I came across some rather interesting questions, some of them is just plain BS in my opinion, but who am I to judge. I just don’t get it, why is it so important to know if you are normal, why would you even consider sacrificing your absolutely incredible uniqueness? So what if you do stuff that is out of the ordinary so what if you look different or feel different about things, why the hell would you want to poison your mind with society standards?
I know we all do this, I am no exception I also suffer from the ‘ashamed_of_being_different’ syndrome occasionally. This is probably the main reason we have secrets that we don’t want anyone else to know about… our own little skeletons in the closet.
I just want to say that it’s okay to be different, it’s okay to love someone that you are not suppose to (according to society standards), it’s okay if you don’t follow fashion trends, it’s okay to think in a foreign accent when writing (I do that :))… it’s okay to be exactly who you are and it’s also okay to keep it to yourself if you choose to, just don’t ever be ashamed of yourself, don’t ever change yourself to ‘fit in’.
PS. Remember, God doesn’t make mistakes. You were not born to be normal; you were born to be exactly who you are.